Thanks for responding. We will be given the 30% tax break but the package is not stellar by any means.

We have travelled extensively and feel the desire to become part of a community abroad.

My husband does not teach but is a director of IT. He does have a good job here with all things included in a US school job.

Very hard choices to be made. Thank you for your time in responding.

This forum is good because I would not know if this is normal or not. Glad to know others have had anxiety.

The hardest was last week when I sold the first thing, fabric. Each piece has a story and I knew why I bought it and it meant something. Yes there were actual tears for the first time. Since then I have sold my snowmachine, a dryer, a gas grill, etc. I still have the big stuff, my truck, my Subaru, my kitchen.

Today as I was doing the first of many cleanings and throwing, I did feel a bit more peaceful. It is when I have too much time and let the fear in that it takes over.

When I met my husband, I introduced him to travel. It is just what I have done my entire life. It is even better with a person you love. We have been around but I have never seen the Netherlands. So fear of the unknown.

My husband says the Netherlands are painfully clean, windy and cold. But he said the sailing is going to be great and it is easy to get other places.

I am going to continue to go forward, be supportive, not be too crazy and keep selling off my treasures.

Thanks for letting me know this is all normal.

Thanks, Is this going to get better or worse as time goes by and we get closer to the date?

I am not sleeping so well and worry about our house, security, movers, all the crap that goes on with this.

Truly the fear is something that is my constant companion and I need to get a new friend and send the fear packing.

We have a great chance to go to the Netherlands yet I am so scared to leave the security of home and my husbands great job.

I am trying to clean the house and list things for sale, yet it is so hard.

Is this fear normal?

We have an offer from a school in the Netherlands. We understand that it is about quality of life and not money. Yet, the cost of living is very high. We are out of debt but only have about $20K saved.

My husband would be the director of IT and I am a non working spouse with school age child. This is a perfect job for him and he really hopes to help this school turn around by implementing technology.

Right now he has a super job in the States with our insurance paid in full by the school, liberal vacation, retirement package. We live in a small mountain valley and the school is one of the best in the State.

Yet, we crave the adventure and want to see new cultures, people and better understanding of the world.

What is your opinion? Do we leave the financial comforts of his job in the States and take the job that is perfect for him in the Netherlands. Or hold off, keep his job in the States, get more $$ saved and then try to find another director of IT job in Europe.