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by metooedu
Fri Mar 13, 2020 5:19 am
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

Once you start attacking me by calling me hysterical (a term with a lot of misogynistic history), a lunatic, a manhater, a troll from China (really?!), most people leave the discussion as they don't want to deal with the mud-slinging. These are very effective tactics to get people to look away. Othe...
by metooedu
Tue Mar 10, 2020 2:20 am
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

Again, for the billionth time, I have referred to an abuse of power. I don't care if you personally think I undermine MeToo. You are not the person I am trying to help. I listen to victims and hear their voices and see just where things went wrong. Because I am the one who gets the phone calls and t...
by metooedu
Sun Mar 08, 2020 3:52 pm
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

You are literally making the #notallmen argument. You do realize that? https://medium.com/@KirstyStricklan/why-men-should-stop-saying-notallmen-immediately-f657e244f7a1 https://www.bustle.com/articles/171595-6-reasons-not-all-men-misses-the-point-because-its-derailing-important-conversations https:/...
by metooedu
Sun Mar 08, 2020 2:40 pm
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

> You really are quite
> sexist, aren't you?

I have repeatedly referred to the abuse of power. The person in power here is a man. The person not in power is a woman. And, due to misogyny, women are blamed for most sexual misconduct. This is not sexist to point out.
by metooedu
Sun Mar 08, 2020 1:02 pm
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

You are using situations with happy endings to ignore the fact that many of these situations don't go well. As a former IS teacher, I am very familiar with IS and the needs of an expat community. I understand your arguments, but they can be used to gaslight women when they have a negative experience...
by metooedu
Sun Mar 08, 2020 11:46 am
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

> A LOT of people read these forums. If he does, he'll recognize it. Yes, it is her > "prerogative to ask advice from whomever she wants", but that doesn't mean > everyone is going to view her posting here the same way. A thing might be your > prerogative, but that doesn't mean your colleagues and s...
by metooedu
Fri Mar 06, 2020 9:25 am
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

I disagree. Does he invite every employee to lunch? Is it fair? How others view it could lead to bullying and nasty gossip about her. And, once the gossip gets started there will be little she can do. The OP hasn't come back on here, but hopefully she decided to be very cautious here. If something g...
by metooedu
Wed Mar 04, 2020 11:23 am
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

I don't think we disagree on that much. 1) You're right. It's a lose-lose situation. As soon as she's been targeted it can go bad no matter what she does. 2) You're right here too. Thank you for reminding me that I was thinking of Western laws, etc. However, I still believe documenting things can he...
by metooedu
Mon Mar 02, 2020 9:12 am
Forum: Forum 1. From Questions About ISS & Search to Anything and Everything About International Teaching
Topic: Director Invited me Out - Help!
Replies: 40
Views: 21008

Re: Director Invited me Out - Help!

The reason the www.metoo-edu.org website exists is to help teachers who are sexually abused at work. The stories I hear always involve an abuse of power and the victim is always blamed for the abuse. The abuser faces no consequences. ***You should note that it often starts out casual with the victim...